“I’ll count to three,” said my angry four-year-old, “and you go to your room.” She’s trying to change the subject. “I’d love to,” I said. “Can you lock me in?”
I need a time-out at least once a day. I’ve decided to put it on my calendar and establish a new habit. Escaping for a couple of hours once a week is great, but don’t you think we are entitled to a few minutes to ourselves every day?
Try taking 20 minutes for yourself, every day for an entire week. You deserve it.
How, you ask? Establish a quiet play or reading time, let them watch a movie or if you are lucky enough to have a child that naps, use that time for yourself. When the kids are occupied don’t fold the laundry, load the dishwasher or mop the kitchen floor. Escape to your room, a comfortable chair, or a hot bubble bath. Expect to be interrupted. Be forgiving. Gently remind the kids that this is your time.
Not sure how to spend your time-out? Here are a few ideas.
- Read a book for pure entertainment. Parenting and self-help books are not allowed. Check out the book sale this week at New Milford High School for a tremendous selection of gently used books in every genre.
- Keep a journal. See Journaling Moms for inspiration and ideas for getting started.
- Take a hot bath. Add lavender oil to relax or peppermint oil to clear your head. For a quick lesson in aromatherapy baths, see Holistic Junction.
Show yourself some love this week. If you can't manage 20 minutes a day, 10 will do fine. Mark your calendar. You are worth it!