Are your kids' room still a mess after the break?

I remember the constant battle for my boys to clean their rooms.  It was important to me, especially when I was having people over.  It simply was not important to them.  Walking on the "carpet" made out of clothing was fine for them.  I ended up giving up and shutting their doors most of the time. 

The first thing you need to decide is how important a clean room is to you. 

A clean room may be high on your priority list, but not on your child's.  Often we parents choose this as a battleground, and our kids keep their rooms messy just to win the battle.  Many neat adults were once messy kids.  And, people can tell the difference between your children's rooms and the rest of the house.

If you want to fight the clean room battle....

·         Work together with young children so they don't get overwhelmed.  Ask, "I wonder where this toy goes?  Can you show me?" , then wait until the toy is put away, and go on to the next item.  Do this at least weekly to keep it manageable.

·         If your child has too many toys, suggest she choose some to put on a shelf or in a box to take out later.  He can also clean out toys that they no longer play with and donate them to a charitable organization.

·         Do not bribe or reward children for doing what needs to be done.  Caring for their rooms is their job, and they don't need a prize to do it.  Do not tie allowances to cleaning rooms, and do not threaten to take away your children's toys if they don't take care of them.

·         Another option is to give your child a choice, "Do you want me to clean your room or do you want to?  If I clean it, I get to throw away what seems worthless."  Tone of voice is important here - you want to make sure to be respectful, and not start a fight.

·         Finally, with older kids, having them set a day a week to clean their rooms work best.

·         If you would like to learn more about the Positive Discipline model, and how to raise respectful, resourceful and responsible children, check out our upcoming class schedule at www.positivedisciplinewesternct.org.   .

Classes fill up, so register early!

Positive Discipline of Western CT promotes and encourages the development of life skills and respectful relationships in families, schools, and businesses in our local communities. We will provide classes to parents, caregivers, educators, and youth development workers, teaching how to raise a child using Positive Discipline skills.

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